Wednesday, June 06, 2007

antiquated custom?



Does every girl dream of her wedding day? The 'modern' day culture would have you believe that, with all the Disney movies, professional wedding coordinators, & thick bridal magazines lining the shelves. She hopes for a prince that will sweep her off her feet & care for her, until death do they part.

Over the years, I have read that my X generation postpones marriage to their 30's, 40's or even later. My friends are a wide mixture of married & divorced couples, single never married, straight & gays. In my adult life, I have attended very few weddings simply because I do not know many people getting married. The couples I do know that are happily married are few. My young parents were divorced before I was 5. My mother has 8 siblings who were all married, as I grew up & now only one partnership is still together. Get used to the term "serial monogamy" cuz it will soon be the norm.

Commitment to love: Studies show that 'love', regardless of how everlasting it may feel in the beginning stages of a relationship, usually doesn’t sustain itself in the long-term. The honeymoon period that invites many of us to think about 'forever' lasts… at the very most… two years. And then we settle down into a rhythm that is better described as 'comfort' or 'companionship'.

Commitment to fidelity: Studies have shown that monogamy is the exception and not the rule in marriages. Commitment to morality: Contrary to the dogma of many religious figures, marriage doesn’t make us more moral creatures.